10 Empowering Alternatives to "I’m So Sorry"
Why do so many thoughtful, collaborative leaders over-apologize when they receive feedback?
Often, it's not about guilt — it's about discomfort. Especially for those with S and I styles on the DiSC® model, the desire to preserve harmony and connection can lead to reflexively saying "I’m sorry" — even when no apology is needed.
But here's the thing: apologizing too quickly or too often can unintentionally weaken your leadership presence.
The good news? There are better ways to respond that still honor your values while reinforcing your credibility.
Below are 10 empowering phrases you can use in feedback moments, especially when someone shares a different perspective, corrects a detail, or challenges your thinking.
10 Empowering Alternatives to "I’m So Sorry"
1. “Good catch — I appreciate you flagging that.”
Acknowledges accuracy and encourages shared ownership.
2. “You’re right — that’s an important detail.”
Affirms clarity without defensiveness.
3. “Thanks for clarifying — that helps us move forward more clearly.”
Keeps the focus on progress, not blame.
4. “That’s a helpful perspective. I hadn’t thought of it like that before.”
Reinforces psychological safety and respect.
5. “Thanks for catching that — you’ve saved us a step.”
Recognizes attention to detail with appreciation.
6. “Great insight — I love that you’re thinking critically.”
Celebrates challenge as a strength, not a threat.
7. “That’s helpful — I’ll revise accordingly.”
Signals confidence in adapting and adjusting.
8. “You bring up a great point — let’s include that in the final version.”
Shows flexibility and collaboration.
9. “Thanks for speaking up — that’s exactly what we need more of.”
Encourages future contribution and dialogue.
10. “That shifts my thinking — I appreciate the nudge.”
Models growth mindset and reflective leadership.
Want to dive deeper into how to build confidence in feedback moments? Read the full article: Stop Shrinking, Start Strengthening BLOG POST
Because when leaders grow, everyone thrives.
LISA HOLDEN ROVERS is the Founder of Workplace Matters. She equips people with the skills and insights to turn everyday interactions into cultures where both individuals and organizations thrive. Through leadership coaching, team development, and certifications in Everything DiSC® and The Five Behaviors®, Lisa helps create workplaces where people work better—together.
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